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Lower thy Gaze… and Thy Inaccuracies Too

March 7, 2010 82 Comments

my hijab my choice Lower thy Gaze… and Thy Inaccuracies Too

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Written by: Farah El-Sharif

I am inclined to respond to Farida Farouk’s article ‘Lower Thy Gaze?‘ as it appeared on 7iber on March 2, 2010.  In her piece, Farouk uses ample Qur’anic sources to differentiate between concepts such as hijab, khimar and jilbab to show that “hijab” as we know it today is somehow misunderstood to have become a “purely political issue, promoted by the Muslim Brotherhood movement” and a reminder of “the Muslim resistance to what the West might stand for such things as modernity, secularism, feminism and globalism.”  While I agree that there have been many negative (and positive!) cultural, social and even political dilutions to our understanding of any scriptural source, I am wary that approaching subjects such as these with pure speculation rather than sound knowledge might risk making gravely false claims about Islamic teachings on the matter, and the millions of Muslim women who willingly choose to wear the hijab.

maryHeart1 Lower thy Gaze… and Thy Inaccuracies Too

"I'm a hijabi too! And no… the Muslim Brotherhood had nothing to do with it…"(image source: EWTN)

Indeed, Muslim women and men alike do have a choice in all aspects of their religion, not merely what dress they choose to wear. While I’m sure some can appreciate Farouk’s reminder that “Muslim women have a choice”, we actually need not go further than the Qur’an itself to remind us that we are responsible over our own actions: “There shall be no compulsion in religion, the right path has become distinct from the wrong path” (Qur’an 2:256).  It is important to add therefore, that part of the Muslim creed is the realization that the choices we make in the everyday facets of our lives will either bring us closer or farther to reward in this life and in the hereafter. So, the fact that we have a choice in Islam does not mean that Muslims are thereby somehow immune from making a “wrong choice.” This is perhaps how Islam is unique to Christianity, for example; Muslims are meant to find happiness by embodying the teachings of the Qur’an and the Sunnah in their everyday life from what they wear, what to eat, how to spend their money…etc. Therefore, the typical scenario for many Muslim women, including myself, shows that covering our bodies (and hair) is in fact a “right choice”, not just “a choice” – a humble fulfillment of God’s clear commandment, and an adherence to recommendation of his beloved Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him:

Then do you believe in a part of the Scripture and reject the rest? Then what is the recompense of those who do so among you, except disgrace in the life of this world, and on the Day of Resurrection they shall be consigned to the most grievous torment. And Allah is not unaware of what you do. (Qur’an 2:85).

While I welcome Farouk’s effort at “researching” the Qur’an for proofs that the hijab is a political fabrication, I would have hoped to see a less simplistic approach in tackling a rich issue such as this, especially when referring the Holy Book. After all, esteemed scholars of Islam have studied the fiqh of the Muslim dress and moral code for centuries, long before the Muslim Brotherhood ever existed, and have come to a legal consensus that covering the hair and body is, in fact, a fard – a religious obligation – for every Muslim woman, no matter how “liberal” or “radical” any given Mufti is on other issues. Farouk single-handedly abrogates centuries of this legal tradition by reading verse 31 of Surat Al-Noor in explaining that the covering that is recommended is that of the bosom only, and not the hair. I will not go into the misinformation of this tafsir for the sake of time, but I ask, is it possible that zeenah only means bosoms thereby making it normal for Muslim women to reveal their breasts to ” their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women”? (Qur’an 24:31) Excuse my crassness, but surely this is a preposterous thought by any measure.

I would like to add that Farouk also makes a hasty and incomplete claim by asking: “why don’t the men just control themselves?” Well, the Qur’an is clear that “modesty codes” are to be followed by women and men both. If Farouk cared to do her research with more care, she would find that the verse she sites is actually preceded by another verse commanding men to lower their gaze too:

Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do” (Qur’an 24:30).

From an Islamic standpoint, preserving piety and modesty is a reciprocal relationship incumbent just as much upon men as it on women. I would advise Farouk and anyone else who is interested in understanding the spiritual and social function of what is today commonly known as “hijab” by consulting reliable sources. For a modern interpretation, I would recommend the works of Sheikh Mohammad al-Ghazali al-Sakka, may God rest his soul.

All of this doesn’t annul the fact that, from a traditional Islamic perspective, wearing the hijab should be a matter of choice, despite the sad reality that it is sometimes done – or not done – for the wrong reasons. The popular political or cultural trends of any given time do not make hijab any less of a religious requirement (except when a woman’s safety is compromised, ex. hijab in America right after 9/11) When Farouk says “hijab is usually sought out by men, who are concerned about protecting the sexuality of the female in question in order to protect their honor” is alarmingly misinformed a claim. If anything, Islam came to eradicate such backwards thinking. Most women I know who choose to wear hijab either do it out of their own free will, and sometimes even against the will of their fathers or brothers. The type of “forced”, “cultural” hijab Farouk is referring to is the exception, not the norm. By assuming that most Muslim women who wear the hijab are oppressed, Farouk contradicts her initial plea that hijab should be a choice: according to her logic, hijab – a political tool of patriarchal oppression –  should not be condoned at all! Such rhetoric is reminiscent of biased Orientalists or some Islamophobes in extremist secular societies in laïcité France, that seek to make it illegal for a Muslim woman to exercise her religious freedom of wearing a headscarf in public places.

I am especially wary of Farouk’s equation of hijab with a Muslim resistance to “modernity, secularism, feminism and globalism”: for many professional, educated and bright Muslim women I know, there is no contradiction in wearing the hijab with being liberal or modern, traditionalist or feminist, globalist or authentic. I even find this we can do it Lower thy Gaze… and Thy Inaccuracies Too“clash ofcivilizations”-type claim rather insulting (and I am not easily insulted): it is not my intention to turn this into a personal story, but I am only sharing it because it is a scenario that happens so rampantly, and yet is not told nearly enough. After having had made the conscious choice to wear the headscarf in the US, I do not believe that I was going through an identity crisis, nor was I trying to make a political claim in the West (and I promise you I wasn’t brainwashed by an “Ikwani Imam”, and rest assured my father could care less whether I wore a peacock leaf or a sombrero – let alone a mere scarf – on my head). I consider myself lucky enough to have been awakened to my spiritual capacity as a dignified Muslim woman, true to the teachings of my sophisticated creed. I felt more “modern, global and feminist” in the process – and yes, even more beautiful and feminine knowing that I had control over who could see my God-given attributes, or my zeenah as the Noble Qur’an so aptly calls it. Echoing the great Martin Luther King, I ask, what greater return to the “content of our character” than an act of emancipation from the debasing tendency for men to judge a woman’s worth based on her looks?

Perhaps this is a matter of perspective, but I think high heels, mini-skirts, outrageous hairdos and starving oneself to achieve unrealistic body image are more oppressive pursuits than a headscarf can ever be! Wearing a headscarf, I do not feel militant, oppressed or ignorant; quite the contrary, I feel honored, proud and strong to be resembling the noblest of women in history, from Mary the Mother of Jesus to Fatima, the lady of all the women of the world – may God be pleased with them both. And even if that weren’t  my attitude, I don’t believe anybody has the right to assume anything about me, my political views, my family or my educational background just by looking at my appearance.  Isn’t that is in itself a form of oppression and disrespect?

It is ironic – and somewhat sad – that an American Jewish journalist could perhaps capture the very essence of hijab better than Farouk, my Arab Muslim sister, when she wrote about the subject last year:

The West interprets veiling as repression of women and suppression of their sexuality. But when I travelled in Muslim countries and was invited to join a discussion in women-only settings within Muslim homes, I learned that Muslim attitudes toward women’s appearance and sexuality are not rooted in repression, but in a strong sense of public versus private, of what is due to God and what is due to one’s husband. It is not that Islam suppresses sexuality, but that it embodies a strongly developed sense of its appropriate channelling – toward marriage, the bonds that sustain family life, and the attachment that secures a home.

The extremely apologetic rhetoric used by Farouk is in my opinion as dangerous as – if not more than – radical Islamist thought:  when one forgoes the richness of the Muslim tradition by thinking they are promoting a “moderate” outlook, one in fact risks abandoning the skeletal structure of Islam altogether and its true potential to create a wholly moral, balanced and healthy society. By making totalitarian claims over what it means to be “modern” and “free”, aren’t we basically just adopting a form of empty inferiority complex towards “the West”? I’m not so sure what is so modern and liberating about domestic abuse and rape – social ailments that are ten times more prevalent in “the West” than they are in Muslim-majority societies.

Thank you, Ms. Farouk, for the reminder that “Muslim women should know that they have a choice in these matters and that their lives should be their own”. And thank you for remembering us, we the poor, sad and oppressed muhajjabas that are not only choking in our headscarves by the Ikhwan and our awful fathers, but also face obstacles such as “illiteracy and inadequate healthcare” too.  Thanks, but… no, thanks.

  • bambambi

    Perfectly fine by me and the fact of the matter i could care less what you want to believe in, i'll respect your right to believe whatever you want about islam… you will not respect my right to do like wise.
    And that's what this argument boils down to. The idea that there is one islam that is true and not that islam is the truth. Hell there wasn't even 1 quran for there to be one way to be a muslim …. READ THE HISTORY OF ISLAM FROM WHAT CONTEMPORARY MUSLIMS OF THE TIME WROTE!
    Think about what i said before responding

  • Ramona

    Noble Quran – Surah Hajj 22:54-57

    54. And that those who have been given knowledge may know that it (this Qur'ân) is the truth from your Lord, and that they may believe therein, and their hearts may submit to it with humility. And verily, Allâh is the Guide of those who believe, to the Straight Path.

    55. And those who disbelieve will not cease to be in doubt about it (this Qur'ân) until the Hour comes suddenly upon them, or there comes to them the torment of the Day after which there will be no night (i.e. the Day of Resurrection).

    56. The sovereignty on that Day will be that of Allâh (the one Who has no partners). He will judge between them. So those who believed (in the Oneness of Allâh Islâmic Monotheism) and did righteous good deeds will be in Gardens of delight (Paradise).

    57. And those who disbelieved and belied Our Verses (of this Qur'ân), for them will be a humiliating torment (in Hell).

    This is what keeps me strong in my faith; knowing truth and (hopefully) following it the way Allah intended me too.

    To me my way…To your way

    Bye

  • bambambi

    well i'm sorry to break it to you but no one escapes hell and you'll be going there as well per maryam 71
    71. And there is none of you except he will come to it[hell]. This is upon your Lord an inevitability decreed.
    So see ya…

  • Mohanned

    Thought this might shed some light on another issue that is related to women's rights:

    http://www.sarayanews.com/home.php?mode=more&ne…

    Enjoy!

  • Mohammad

    I think you are discussing a much different topic. The lack of understanding of Islam by the majority of Muslims in Jordan is a problem indeed, but that stems from the lack of knowledge and interpretation.

    This articles seems to be talking more about the essence and true meaning of hijab in Islam and how those who follow Islam correctly choose to follow it and are not forced to do it.

  • nas k

    for some reason i was only notified of your reply a few hours ago via email,

    look man i have no problem with people wearing the hijab , if that decision was reached through logic and conviction, however we know that this is not true in the majority of cases, this is not an opinion this is a fact , we are a very authoratitive society , more so when we deal with our women. so the matter of the fact is that the majority of women are forced to wear it just as men are forced into certain things as well, very few fathers allow their sons to study what they want in college even if they are sending them to the states , beddak titzawaj even if ur 40 if ur dad dont approve ur not goin to get anywhere , so the majority of marriages, of careers ,etc etc are determined for us by our parents and soceity and the hijab falls under this as well.

    just because a few women who have access to internet and have a good command of English have reached the conclusion that they want to wear the hijab that does not mean that others have not had it forced on them. and thus when that custom is being forced by what is largely a political party, i.e the brotherhood then it stops being a personal issue and is one with economic , political and social implications.

    even in the poorest hoods in east amman you will find school that teach lil kids the koran and to memorize it, never mind using these funds to teach real life skills , wether its professional training , computer skillz, foreign languages, what a waste of money and time, generation after generation of those who can quote the koran but cant speak a word of english properly , great so we have ” pious ” muslim women right? 70% plus of which believe they have a right to be beaten by their husbands , kids who grow up understanding a fictional account of their history and former greatness, and when some of these cats plan and execute bombings that kill 80 Jordanians most of them visting from Palestine, we celebrate that great accomplishment out in public , but hey kids know how to recite the koran and 12 year old girls are in hijab so who gives a fuck?

  • Mohammad

    Oh really, I got your reply right away. Thats really weird.

    What you say makes complete sense, but I think what you are talking about is a larger societal problem. Anywhere in the world where you have a poor population who are disadvantaged and uneducated, you will find that they follow certain CULTURAL customs that do not make sense. To a lot of them, the hijab might be more a cultural symbol of identity, respect, or honor for that matter but that does not discredit those who do live in the poor areas and follow the religion based on their own knowledge, education, and conviction. Nonetheless, the issues you raise have nothing to do with religion, rather they stem from an economic, political, and social issues.

    Now to say that most of the women wear the hijab out of force I think is a stretch. However, to say that most wear the hijab without the true understanding of the hijab is a valid point. Husbands and brothers may tell their wives and sisters to wear it, but I don't think most of the women wish they can take it off or feel that they truly don't want to wear it.

  • Ahmad

    Thank you… Thank you.. Thank you!
    This is a wonderful article! I wish we had more people like you who care enough to silence people like that farida person ( or at least nullify the outrageous claims, since i doubt she would ever stop). She clearly has an agenda and a religion complex.. all her articles are just unjustified attacks on Islam that involve extremely insulting and elitist attitudes.
    Your article is wonderful, again!

  • basma

    3njad thank you very much!well done:)
    you know the problem with the type of people like Farida is that they are talking by the name of liberty, modernism and openness but still when they handle things you can feel how they handle things via “chained” thoughts and ideas. It seems that non Arabs appreciate the freedom of Arab girls more than the Arabs themselves! Every day i stand in front of American students teaching them Arabic with my Hijab but did not feel being offended at all, they respect it and they do not judge me as some Arab people like Farida does!.
    It is important to mention that may be Farida forgot that nowadays people tend to view the whole Islam to be politica not only Hijabl!!! so does that lead Muslims to abandon Islam!!
    again thank you farah :)

  • http://twitter.com/Sheeshany Haitham Al-Sheeshany

    Many thanks and hats-off for you Ms. Farah, well-done indeed.

  • May

    I totally support Anas,
    Down with ignoracnce and Farah…if u know about biology enough u would know that females are aroused as well by the strong hands, shoulders, chest and bare legs of a man!! the justification of Awra that u talk about is sooooo weak!!
    and u have no choice!! u r wearing a hijab cause ur religion told u to, and cause they portrayed u a god who gets furious if u don't!!

  • May

    Poverty is a huge problem affecting all nations.., Ignorance, uncacceptance of others…many many problems that we are regretfully related to the interpretations of religion. It is not wether a religion is wrong or right, it's how people are reacting to a certain teaching. If an imam tells the prayers every friday that if their women don't cover their heads they will burn in hell, or if they hear them talking on daily basis abt how women should be treated (noting that most of the clergy men and Imams that we have in Jordan are fanaftics and serving hidden agendas) of course this would be like a kind of brainwashing.
    If you were raised in an environment that tells you that covering your hair connects you with god or it tells u that u will be respected if u do cover it then u will do.
    A girl of 3 years old who sees all the women around her cover their hair she will look forward to do so whenever she can, and it's not a matter of choice. Same as a young girl who sees her mom applying make up or wearing high heels, for a little child to imitate her mom means the world.
    So if I was raised in a conservative background it would reflect on my behaviour and my judgment on other people and vice versa…

  • May

    Muslimah!!
    By a hijab u r sexualising her at a very early age. u r giving her a message that her body is a simple mean of attraction to all men and that she cannot control it unless covered by hijab and a jilbab. U r not giving her a choice, u r brainwashing ur own child same as ur parents did to u

  • May

    Romana…please do not explain what God All Mighty wants from us!! God All Mighty is so simple and soooo allllooof from ur discussion of his wills, wants and punishments. He gave us minds to think. “If I do not think I do not exist”. U do not have the choice to think of what u read it seems, u simply take what ur scholars socceity and imams say and act upon them.
    and yes hijab is a associated not with poltical will only but with culture and chauvnisim and much much more. We by discussing what women have the right to do and not to do we are being distracted from other plots others are making to control wealth and minds…

  • May

    Well if u have the right to silence someone then they have the right to silence you ahmad. Never expect people to respect ur opinion if u do not even respect their right to have an opinion of their own

  • May

    Thanks for the post mohanned, this is one of the silliest articles i have ever read…No HEAVEN for women at all unless they are houryat for the men!!

  • bubu_basha

    Muslimah,
    I fully agree with you and have the utmost respect towards your choices and that goes without saying to Farah for such a wonderful article. May more Muslims find it within themselves to understand their religion in the way it was truly meant. The way it was practised in the days of the Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and the sahabah (رضي الله عنهم), and the way it was practised in the the golden era of the Islamic Empire.

    To Nas K, i'm not at all surprised Muslimah has not replied to your post. Would a mother want for her daughter what is bad for her? You must understand that Muslims (the ones who practise Islam correctly) live their lives to worship Allah in the hope of an afterlife in Heaven. In this sense, it is imperative that her daughter follow the teachings of Islam and not go astray; as in atheism. I think it is disgusting you come to conclusions solely based on her daughter wearing hijab or not. Do you know what Muslimah teaches her children? Do you know what kind of values she instills within them? No and no; do not assume what you have no knowledge of.

    When parents in the West buy their daughters bikinis and miniskirts etc. at a young age, is that not sexualising them? Your argument is completely bias and you do not look at the bigger picture.

    May,
    I have been following a few of your arguments in different topics and have come to realise you argue for the sake of argument. Your posts are ignorant, uneducated and presumptuous. You have a close-minded hatred towards Islam without a genuine understanding (i highly doubt you have any understanding actually) of it.

    Before you make any more comments, i advise you to do some research, talk to the people you abruptly claim to be oppressed and forced and other than telling people they are brainwashed or don't have a clear understanding of their own religion, you should reassess your own knowledge of matters because quite frankly you are the brainwashed idiot.

    Arguing with you would be an enormous insult to my intelligence, so do not expect me to reply to any of your following rants unless i find them worthy of reply. But as i said; you argue for the sake of argument, so don't count on a reply…ever.

  • bubu_basha

    No generalisations intended.

  • May

    Mmmmm, it's good to see that u were following my comments bubu_basha…and no dear, I do not comment for the sake of arguing. Please reread what I wrote u'll see that it comes out of experience. No one is insulting ur intelligence unless u feel that ur intelligence is worth being insulted.
    I'm a Jordanian women who lives in Amman, very proud to be Jordanian and more proud to be an Arab, I'm an ordinay woman who faces a very narrow minded views on daily basis. U have to look at a bigger picture bubu_basha…before judging any woman. Most of my friends are veiled and I do respect their choice, but I do not believe in wearing a veil. We are not loose women if we choose not to cover our heads, we do not deserve to be looked at as prostitutes in some parts of eastern amman if we wear pants or short sleeves (or west amman where i work as a matter of fact). It is not with a hijab that we should be respected. If u fail to respect a woman because she doesn't wear a veil or she doesn't believe in it, then no one can be blamed if he/she doesn't respect ur opinions.

  • bubu_basha

    I wasn't planning on replying, but you have given me enough fuel to erect the following fire without much effort.

    You have proven my statements of your comments being ignorant, uneducated and presumptuous. How?
    Ignorant in the way you blame Islam (indirectly) for people viewing you as a “prostitute”. It is wrong that some people view you that way but that's out of ignorance and disrespect towards women, two things Islam condemns.

    Uneducated in the fact you believe your comments are out of experience; you do not wear the hijab so cannot make remarks to someone such as, “brainwashed” and “oppressed”, it's interesting to see you find most of your friends (quote:”most of my friends are veiled”) “brainwashed” by their parents or “oppressed” in this sense.

    Presumptuous in the fact you unjustly assume things about me. Where have i judged your morality? I believe your opinions are close-minded hate rants but that's judging you as free-thinking adult, not as a woman. Where have i stated i disrespect women who do not wear the hijab? I'll have you know Queen Rania is the woman i most respect for her independence, knowledge, what she has done and stands for. Does she wear a veil? The fact you assume such things makes you narrow-minded.
    “Assumptions are the mother of all fuck-ups”

  • AyubSays

    Do I see something comical?

    “Also the Christian nuns are the women, who hold themselves by vow to poverty, chastity and obedience and dedicate their lives to the service of the church.”

    Those, except for poverty and changing Church to Allah sound just about correct. hehe.

    I don't see anything contradictory between your own statement and the goal of every Muslim Woman, or Man for that matter!

    Very comical, indeed. May Allah allow all of us to set aside our ego and be objective, even for just a moment.

    Salam.

  • AyubSays

    So many comments!

    Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah hahahaha….

    Anyways, good read.

    I wish people would stop boo-hooing about the abysmal state of affairs in society and step up to do something to change it. I am referring to many of the commentators who suggest that because people are backward as hell that any detail of their lives must also be backward.

    This is just irresponsible, in my opinion.

    Cool Article, Salam.

  • AyubSays

    Everyone has an opinion, just some are a bit more objective than others. Always remember that.

  • AyubSays

    This is one of the most hilarious arguments I've ever heard, and unfortunately continue to hear, and here is why:

    My mom and dad made me wear pants at a young age.. so, she must have been teaching me the power of my sexuality! Or else I shouldn't have had to cover my crotch!

    Please, a bit of intellect? Or pretend? Please?

  • AyubSays

    Who isn't “proud to be arab”?

    Self perpetuating abysmal state of affairs, people haven't even begun to address the problem that is and always has been in their minds all along.

  • AyubSays

    Do I see something comical?

    “Also the Christian nuns are the women, who hold themselves by vow to poverty, chastity and obedience and dedicate their lives to the service of the church.”

    Those, except for poverty and changing Church to Allah sound just about correct. hehe.

    I don't see anything contradictory between your own statement and the goal of every Muslim Woman, or Man for that matter!

    Very comical, indeed. May Allah allow all of us to set aside our ego and be objective, even for just a moment.

    Salam.

  • AyubSays

    So many comments!

    Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah hahahaha….

    Anyways, good read.

    I wish people would stop boo-hooing about the abysmal state of affairs in society and step up to do something to change it. I am referring to many of the commentators who suggest that because people are backward as hell that any detail of their lives must also be backward.

    This is just irresponsible, in my opinion.

    Cool Article, Salam.

  • AyubSays

    Everyone has an opinion, just some are a bit more objective than others. Always remember that.

  • AyubSays

    This is one of the most hilarious arguments I've ever heard, and unfortunately continue to hear, and here is why:

    My mom and dad made me wear pants at a young age.. so, she must have been teaching me the power of my sexuality! Or else I shouldn't have had to cover my crotch!

    Please, a bit of intellect? Or pretend? Please?

  • AyubSays

    Who isn't “proud to be arab”?

    Self perpetuating abysmal state of affairs, people haven't even begun to address the problem that is and always has been in their minds all along.

  • Lailaalger

    amazing , just amazing . Thank you so much .

  • Echo

    Hijab or no hijab…..I would wear a hijab or a veil no matter what my religious beliefs. Why? Because they are very cool. And I like them.